When it comes to finding your Bashert, Tefillah (prayer) is often our first and most heartfelt tool. But have you heard of Segulos? These spiritual “remedies” or protective actions have deep roots in Jewish tradition and offer another powerful way to connect with Hashem and invite blessings into your life. Let’s explore what Segulos really are and how they can enhance your journey toward finding your soulmate.
What Is a Segulah? More Than Just a Ritual
A Segulah (plural: segulos) is a spiritual act believed to bring about positive change through divine intervention. Think of it as a bridge between our human effort (Hishtadlus) and Hashem’s blessings. It’s not superstition or magic — it’s a meaningful practice that signals our readiness to receive Hashem’s help.
For example, some people wear a red string to protect against negativity or recite specific Torah portions like Parshas Haman for Parnassah (sustenance). These actions aren’t about luck — they’re about intentional connection and faith.
Powerful Segulos for Your Shidduch Journey
Here are some Segulos, each rooted in tradition and packed with spiritual strength, especially relevant for anyone seeking a Shidduch or Yeshuah (salvation):
1. Shemiras Halashon: Guard Your Tongue, Guard Your Heart
Guarding your speech brings peace to your surroundings and to yourself. Rebbetzin Kanievsky highlighted that learning just two Halachos of Shemiras Halashon daily is a powerful Segulah for Shidduchim. There are even special laws related specifically to Shidduchim that can deepen this practice’s impact.
2. When Publicly Humiliated: The Power of Forgiveness
If someone insults you and you choose not to respond, you embody the trait called “Maavir al Midosav” — a forgiving nature beloved by Hashem. This is a sacred moment to Daven for a Shidduch, either for yourself or others, as it shows true spiritual strength.
3. Shiluach Hakan: Compassion Opens Doors
The mitzvah of Shiluach Hakan (sending away the mother bird before taking her eggs) teaches kindness and mercy. It’s also a Segulah for Shidduchim, having children, and acquiring a new home — and one of the few Mitzvos that promises long life and good fortune.
4. The Spiritual Power of 40
The number 40 is significant in Jewish tradition — symbolizing growth, transformation, and spiritual awakening. Many Segulos recommend practices done for 40 consecutive days, such as:
- Reciting Shir Hashirim, a poetic expression of love.
- Praying at the Kotel (Western Wall), a place of deep connection.
- Saying Nishmas Kol Chai, an ultimate praise of Hashem.
This period of consistency builds spiritual momentum for your Shidduch.
5. The Magic of a 40-Woman Challah Bake
Gathering in unity with 40 women to bake challah and say prayers creates a powerful energy for Yeshuos. Beyond the spiritual merit, it’s a beautiful mitzvah that uplifts everyone involved.
6. Mesilas Yesharim: Perfect Your Middos
Studying chapter 25 of Mesilas Yesharim is a special Segulah for Shidduchim because it helps refine character traits — the foundation of any healthy relationship. In fact, studying the whole Sefer is a profound way to prepare yourself.
7. Answering Amen: The Power of One Word
“Amen” is more than just a response — it’s a spiritual act that can outshine even reciting a Bracha, according to the Gemarah. When you answer amen with genuine intent, you join in a sacred “battle” for blessing and success. Make it a habit for an incredible spiritual boost.
8. Hachnasas Kallah: Giving Brings Blessing
Helping a bride Kallah) in need is a tremendous mitzvah. By easing financial burdens, you show Hashem that you care deeply about His children — a kindness that can open doors for your own Shidduch.
9. Tznius: Modesty in All Its Forms
Modesty goes beyond clothing. It’s about speech, attitude, and how you carry yourself. Struggling with Tznius? Your sincere effort to improve can become a powerful Segulah for your bashert.
10. Tehillim: The Timeless Prayer
Reciting Tehillim is never wasted — whether with deep Kavana (intention) or not. Some chapters especially connected to Shidduchim include:
- Chapter 31: Trusting Hashem in tough times.
- Chapter 32: The joy of sincere repentance.
- Chapter 70: Asking Hashem to save us from troubles.
- Chapter 71: Seeking shelter in Hashem’s protection.
- Chapter 121: Drawing strength from Hashem.
- Chapter 124: Remembering Hashem’s saving kindness.
Helping Couples with Fertility
Organizations like Boneiolam.org and Ohelsarala.org unite those seeking Shidduchim with couples undergoing fertility treatments. By supporting others, you invite blessings on your own journey — a beautiful exchange of prayers and kindness.
Healing Old Wounds
Sometimes past hurts block our blessings. Many Gedolim have found that seeking Mechila (forgiveness) from someone you may have hurt can transform your Mazal. If this resonates, a Rav can help facilitate this important step — just reach out to ohelsarala@gmail.com.
The Ultimate Segulah: Praying for Each Other
Rebbe Nachman of Breslov teaches that heartfelt prayer, in any language, reaches Hashem. Even more powerful is praying for others. When you lift someone else’s struggle to Hashem, your own prayers are answered first. Let’s build a community of mutual prayer and support.
Summary: Unlocking Blessings with Faith and Action
Segulos are beautiful ways to deepen your connection with Hashem while actively working toward your Shidduch. From guarding your speech and showing compassion, to praying at the Kotel or studying Mesilas Yesharim — each action strengthens your spiritual path.
Remember, these practices are not about luck or superstition. They are heartfelt efforts that complement your Hishtadlus and open your heart to receive divine blessings.
May your journey be filled with hope, growth, and Yeshuos — and may you soon find the soulmate destined for you.
